31 Mar 2012

Being single at 19

We live in a world where we are constantly being judged,its over our appearance, the way we talk,dress,earn,live...but it's also mostly about whom we date,or how we date or lead our personal lifestyles.And when we are a single(preferably for a long time like me) people are free to use their common sense NOT plus perception.Trust me,I appreciate being single,not falling for any random loser,learning what life really is without their help,which had earlier drained me completely.
And having a boyfriend has never done it for me and will never do so in the future(pretty sure of that) So here I am,weighing the pros and cons of being single at 19 in the 21st century ...
1.Nothing to regret: Past love is mostly all about the guilt...about doing something wrong or not doing something when needed which leads to the demise of the relationship.So now I really do have nothing to regret...I live a relatively guilt free life.This is one of the awesomest perk of being a single woman.

2.No tensions:Relationships are not so smooth.You have to make them work.Keep the other person happy,massage your bruised ego all by yourself,make peace...and all that.I don't have to worry about that anymore.None of that,and none of OMG how are my parents going to react to this...I'm such a bad daughter and all of that.

3.No feeling low:Guys can be total asses at times.And when the power of vulnerability shifts from them to you,the slightest things they say can make you feel really bad.And in my case,the hurts have been really big.Since the past few years,apart from the old hurts,I've not reached an all time low or anything. In fact,being in a relationship can suck out your happiness and being single=being happy,is what I believe in truly.

4.No loss of self-esteem:Women do say they feel good when they're in a relationship.That never worked for me.These things have,in fact,reduced my self-esteem,which I brought back by positive things such as exercise,positive people,good friends and discipline.

5.You can retain your virginity:These days,there is no such thing as pre-marital sex.Everyone's doing it,like it's a fad.And sometimes,even relationships ain't necessary to take a step so big.While being a sunshine is much frowned upon by these intellects,I prefer to be one,no matter what they say.

6.Single=having brains:Often,we ignore the early warning systems present within us,which screams on silently.It has a voice which goes like'oh no you fool,he's lying' which you conveniently choose to ignore because you 'love' him.Love is often a vague terminology and people have been epic trolled by this

 While you can already say that the pros outweigh the cons,the cons do exist,and come up every now and then,diminishing your common sense.

1.No feeling of that 'high' which love sometimes give you: Which only happens when you're with the right person.Just being in a relationship with any random person is not going to do that(unless he's a smooth talker:a quality which many girls find hard to not  fall for) Even then,at 19,I can figure out a smooth talker just like that.Life teaches you so many things.

2.*sigh* those awesome candle light dinners,cuddles..all those cheesy things which hello,rarely happen in real life are the things you want the most,at times,make you long for a boyfriend.

I'm pretty sure many girls all over can relate to this post ;) as I've added inputs from many girls I know..But over all,I'll definitely say,I prefer being single.


17 Mar 2012

My top 10 most favorite things in life :)

My first picture blog post :)
I admit,I didn't blog for a while,due to laziness,other stuff going on,ectera,ectera.So this blog post caters to the self-obsessed part of me,which no matter how small its size,does exist.So here goes :)

1.Rom-Coms: Like I did admit in my earlier posts,I'm a cheesy much person.But I hate the way the word cheesy is used,like it's derogatory or something.Cheesy is a perfectly legitimate word,and romcoms are truly one of my favourite things :)Those familiar with my life and this blog,are aware of this,but this truly tops the list.
2.Meg Cabot's books: I know there are far better writers,with far better narrations.But this woman's books with her sophistcated wit and humour coupled with a sappy dappy love tale makes me feel good on the inside.
3.Cheesecakes and Tiramisu:Jeez.This blog post makes me sound super girly. Guiltily so.And this is my guilty pleasure.While it is generously loaded with calories,it is loaded with happiness as well.
I often eat them in a celebratory mood :) But trust me,you are missing something if you never tried these things.
 4.How I met your Mother and the Big bang theory: Needless to say,I love these shows.They represent stuff actually happening with people in terms of dating, complicated feelings, and more so in a totally funny way.And since I've got all episodes loaded in my pc,its almost like reading a book on those lazy days.
5.Shoes: like a wise woman once said, there's one thing that will never disappoint me..shoes<3.All I can say is,she's damned right :D Shoes,flat or heels,stilettos or the extra-normal ones...shopping for them fills a gap in our lives that we never actually know actually  existed.
6.Fab kurtas: Kurtas are the best apparels I know.I can don them at any time, without feeling the uncomfortable feeling those short shirts sometimes give you.And they can look totally hot.
7.Writing: no,this doesn't have to be almost at the bottom list.But yes,I absolutely adore writing.I want to hone up this flair,so I can write publishing worth stuff.*sighs* never hurts to dream big!
8.Aerobics: I love to workout.Especially aerobics.While I'm not regular with it now,I intend to be soon.
9.Random layman politics discussion with dad:analysing country's growth,freedom,constitution,cases...is what I talk about with my dad.He's awesome and gives me some wonderful essential insights about the way things go around in this country.He's immensely knowledgeable,and it's fun to know all those facts
 10.Girlie talks with mom: I tell my mom most of the things.She's patient, an awesome listener(a trait found so rarely in people nowadays,what with selective hearing being in fashion)
is an awesome,matured friend to have.