Cuz violence ain't cool

Domestic violence is a violation of women's human rights.It is directed at them by their intimate partners, husband or boyfriend intended to hurt and create pain.It results in devastating physical,emotional,social effects not only on women,but on the entire community,family and children.
Often,the abuser/batterer is a lowlife who does not view women as people,but objects to use and dispose.
That is,objects of sex and things which serve no other purpose.The man will never blame himself for his crass behavior.It's always the women.Or its his bad day.
He could also be extremely possessive or jealous.Worst part,he believes he is entitled for sex.And born to dominate.The men,supposed to be superior beings right?Heck,they so don't know what being a woman is all about.Too ignorant or too stupid? Yet to find out.
Every year,more than ten thousand women lose their lives in domestic violence.That's almost three women everyday.
Recently,in a survey (2012) 57% adolescents claimed that it's okay,to hit women.After all,why differentiate?
Really, no moms and sisters at your place? Or superior beings already,are we?
There is no big deal about women treatment.Seriously,treat them with respect and kindness.Don't stare,pass lewd comments(ewww,passing such ghatiya comments,doesn't make you a big man,it makes you a lowlife)
And just because a woman trusts you with her life,it doesn't make her dumb.It makes you evil.And even more dumb-er.
So you trolled a women.Broke her trust.Makes you a big man?Unfortunately no.It just makes you a crass human being.Something your mom never wanted you to be.So,making  our mom proud, are we?
You--all of you.Who believe that women are secondary beings,inferior to you all greater beings, are a curse to the world.You think you can hide that terribly low self-esteem but trust me,it's so obvious.Staring right in everyone's face.
Catherine Smith was one such unfortunate woman,who had to put up with her brutal husband for three decades.She then resorted to killing her own husband,but she couldn't do it.Cuz she was no criminal,but she did end up killing herself.She tried to seek help from the system,but it couldn't help her.There are many such women out there, who face gruesome violence at the hands of their husbands daily .Seriously women out there,no,it's gonna worsen the situation if you stay with your cheapsta.Get out right away,the sooner the better.

India :unloved

We've had a glorious history.India was known as the 'land of milk and honey',implying ample prosperity and wealth, and no sad scene basically.Apart from the low status of women(which I'll get back to later)
It's said that,'where wealth accumulates,men decay' And so were invaded by various foreigners, who made the nation poor and the citizens spineless,which still continues today. We live in a world dominated by castes,sects,and the centrifugal pattern which makes all of us biased towards all other people.They'll all say,'Oh they just hate people of our caste/sect/religion' but they do the very same thing themselves.So much for the hypocrisy.And it's not just the old ones.The young ones will do that too.More so, in fact.
The government today is nothing but puerile garbage.They'll favor people of a certain class or community.And deliberately bring down the rest.They have to survive in the game of politics after all. The common people have relied on people like Anna Hazare or Baba Ramdev.Let's how that works.Not that I have much faith in it.
The govt has even hidden important components of the real history so as to prevent communal violence,as they claim. So,it never gets out.What we learnt in school was just partially bits and pieces info of what happened. Seriously,who is really patriotic?The leaders?working class? Nobody.Nobody gives a fuck.Everyone's preoccupied with something else to care really.Besides,most of them believe things are beyond repair anyway.Leaders take advantage of this resigned belief and continue their dirty business, making the commoners suffer and excelling in owning wealth in amounts unimaginable to even the richest commoner around.Boy,we are one messed up country.
People have their personal difficulties, jobs and all other stuff to sort out.So nobody cares.And so we survive like that.Nationalism?They'll laugh at you and tell you to get a life.
People(even the commonest of the common lot) bribe.They don't give a fuck about voting,about the environment and hence,we fulfilled the greed of our awesome politicians and we'll continue to do so.

Being single at 19

We live in a world where we are constantly being judged,its over our appearance, the way we talk,dress,earn,live...but it's also mostly about whom we date,or how we date or lead our personal lifestyles.And when we are a single(preferably for a long time like me) people are free to use their common sense NOT plus perception.Trust me,I appreciate being single,not falling for any random loser,learning what life really is without their help,which had earlier drained me completely.
And having a boyfriend has never done it for me and will never do so in the future(pretty sure of that) So here I am,weighing the pros and cons of being single at 19 in the 21st century ...
PROS OF BEING SINGLE;
1.Nothing to regret: Past love is mostly all about the guilt...about doing something wrong or not doing something when needed which leads to the demise of the relationship.So now I really do have nothing to regret...I live a relatively guilt free life.This is one of the awesomest perk of being a single woman.

2.No tensions:Relationships are not so smooth.You have to make them work.Keep the other person happy,massage your bruised ego all by yourself,make peace...and all that.I don't have to worry about that anymore.None of that,and none of OMG how are my parents going to react to this...I'm such a bad daughter and all of that.

3.No feeling low:Guys can be total asses at times.And when the power of vulnerability shifts from them to you,the slightest things they say can make you feel really bad.And in my case,the hurts have been really big.Since the past few years,apart from the old hurts,I've not reached an all time low or anything. In fact,being in a relationship can suck out your happiness and being single=being happy,is what I believe in truly.

4.No loss of self-esteem:Women do say they feel good when they're in a relationship.That never worked for me.These things have,in fact,reduced my self-esteem,which I brought back by positive things such as exercise,positive people,good friends and discipline.

5.You can retain your virginity:These days,there is no such thing as pre-marital sex.Everyone's doing it,like it's a fad.And sometimes,even relationships ain't necessary to take a step so big.While being a sunshine is much frowned upon by these intellects,I prefer to be one,no matter what they say.

6.Single=having brains:Often,we ignore the early warning systems present within us,which screams on silently.It has a voice which goes like'oh no you fool,he's lying' which you conveniently choose to ignore because you 'love' him.Love is often a vague terminology and people have been epic trolled by this

CONS OF BEING SINGLE
 While you can already say that the pros outweigh the cons,the cons do exist,and come up every now and then,diminishing your common sense.

1.No feeling of that 'high' which love sometimes give you: Which only happens when you're with the right person.Just being in a relationship with any random person is not going to do that(unless he's a smooth talker:a quality which many girls find hard to not  fall for) Even then,at 19,I can figure out a smooth talker just like that.Life teaches you so many things.

2.*sigh* those awesome candle light dinners,cuddles..all those cheesy things which hello,rarely happen in real life are the things you want the most,at times,make you long for a boyfriend.

I'm pretty sure many girls all over can relate to this post ;) as I've added inputs from many girls I know..But over all,I'll definitely say,I prefer being single.

  

My top 10 most favorite things in life :)

My first picture blog post :)

  

I admit,I didn't blog for a while,due to laziness,other stuff going on,ectera,ectera.So this blog post caters to the self-obsessed part of me,which no matter how small its size,does exist.So here goes :)

1.Rom-Coms: Like I did admit in my earlier posts,I'm a cheesy much person.But I hate the way the word cheesy is used,like it's derogatory or something.Cheesy is a perfectly legitimate word,and romcoms are truly one of my favourite things :)Those familiar with my life and this blog,are aware of this,but this truly tops the list.

2.Meg Cabot's books: I know there are far better writers,with far better narrations.But this woman's books with her sophistcated wit and humour coupled with a sappy dappy love tale makes me feel good on the inside.

3.Cheesecakes and Tiramisu:Jeez.This blog post makes me sound super girly. Guiltily so.And this is my guilty pleasure.While it is generously loaded with calories,it is loaded with happiness as well.

I often eat them in a celebratory mood :) But trust me,you are missing something if you never tried these things.

 4.How I met your Mother and the Big bang theory: Needless to say,I love these shows.They represent stuff actually happening with people in terms of dating, complicated feelings, and more so in a totally funny way.And since I've got all episodes loaded in my pc,its almost like reading a book on those lazy days.

5.Shoes: like a wise woman once said, there's one thing that will never disappoint me..shoes<3.All I can say is,she's damned right :D Shoes,flat or heels,stilettos or the extra-normal ones...shopping for them fills a gap in our lives that we never actually know actually  existed.

6.Fab kurtas: Kurtas are the best apparels I know.I can don them at any time, without feeling the uncomfortable feeling those short shirts sometimes give you.And they can look totally hot.

7.Writing: no,this doesn't have to be almost at the bottom list.But yes,I absolutely adore writing.I want to hone up this flair,so I can write publishing worth stuff.*sighs* never hurts to dream big!

8.Aerobics: I love to workout.Especially aerobics.While I'm not regular with it now,I intend to be soon.

9.Random layman politics discussion with dad:analysing country's growth,freedom,constitution,cases...is what I talk about with my dad.He's awesome and gives me some wonderful essential insights about the way things go around in this country.He's immensely knowledgeable,and it's fun to know all those facts

 10.Girlie talks with mom: I tell my mom most of the things.She's patient, an awesome listener(a trait found so rarely in people nowadays,what with selective hearing being in fashion)

is an awesome,matured friend to have.

2011 for me

I entered 2011 with buzzing optimism.I wish I had retained that attitude,as I realized,optimism is the key to happiness.Couple it with positive thinking and it leads to happiness.This year,I learnt to embrace this attitude which also helped me in letting go off the past hurts.Being happy and counting your blessings instead of troubles has been a major lesson for me this year.This year,I also loosened up a little,and let go off the awkwardness within me.It wasn't truly a happening year,and it was yes,even a lil drab at times,but damn it,if it wasn't the best year of my life :D
Because life is all about enjoying the little mundane things around you instead of some buzzing hyperactivity.I could write about a few moments nevertheless
1.India winning the world cup:
Awesome.Legendary. Awesome again!Winning the world cup was a high moment for every Indian.Especially Dhoni's last six.Pak's jealousy was reflected in Shoaib Akhtars lame autobiography,in which he threw some derogatory remarks against Sachin.Go die,Shoaib!
2.Embracing positivism,and letting go off the past hurts: I did a lot of negative thinking earlier on,due to which my self-image was distorted.At 53 kgs,I often felt like I was the heaviest girl alive.I've let go off all those things,and I guess,I can see myself clearly for who I am,and loving myself that way. Now I like and live by Barney Stintson(the legendary guy)'s quote,"When I'm sad,I stop being sad and be awesome instead"
3.Anna Hazare's campaign:While it is still on,and I wonder where is it heading to,but when it started,I had a lot faith in it,for this was a common man's battle (a visibly fair one) against the corruption.Grandest salute to the uneducated guy from Ralegaon Siddhi ,who had the gumption to initiate such a successful  campaign against corruption for the Levis and Pepe Jeans-clad youth,who care less than anything about their country.
4.Movies:My favourite one of this year has to be Harry Potter's final installment of the HP series.Rowling's magic turning into a grand visual treat livened up mine and many of the HP fans' lives.Rockstar and Singham were decent movies too.
The crassest movie of the year has to be Delhi Belly.DB's crude,crass,vulgar humour did not appeal to me.
I wonder what delusional image does Aamir Khan have about the youth.I hate him for making this one.Like I said,Mausam was an unexpectedly crap movie,so I've shifted my loyalties from Shahid to Ranbir.Sorry,Shahid.

Anyway,here's to hoping that 2012 will be awesome. Which it will be :D Happy New Year,guys!!

Living in the world of deceit

Sounds gory and cynical,but alas,the truth is,the truth ain't valued anymore.We live in a world where lies, deceit,and unwarranted praise is not only liked,but needed by everybody.
The old fashioned fables and the moral stories we heard as kids  all about honesty is so passe.
The world is all about throwing your un frank opinions around and literally,doing all the 'chaplusi'.
Double standards,lies, deceit is done on the top of the hat and let's face it,everyone's doing it.Some people do it less,some people do it better.I know in particular a woman who literally thrives on the bullshit.
And yes,she does think all the people with frank and straightforward opinions are jealous of her.Yeah,right.
This is the attitude which has developed for the very few remaining people who believe in being awesome(not telling so much of lies to suck up to people)
Kids suck up to their teachers.People praise their bosses to the core with burning rage in their hearts just to survive in their job.So no point in not admitting that you don't or haven't sucked up to any person in a particular point of time. Of course,you want to be nice.But,you don't have to be a fake in doing so.
Double standards and insincere flattery has increased way too much.Sure,you don't want to hurt somebody's feelings.But you don't have to praise someone's old sweater and then when that person leaves,they go like,'terrible sweater.Suits her'
You have to be bloody good compliment-er to exist in this world,and win everyone's affections.
So praise the man who wants to flaunt his flowery pants,only to laugh at him later on.
Look at advertising.Many of the products aren't so good,anyway.But just the fake,legalized lying makes people buy it.
Critics be warned.They will be stoned for their bloody blunder.No truth,you understand?That's how it is.
Sure,bitch behind their back.But on their face, give them a hug,tell them they're awesome too much and everyone leaves happy.
Not really.
Yeah unfortunately we're all the victims of this unfortunate epidemic.Fake behavior.
This blog is also dedicated to those awesome people I don't wish to name :)
They've been the queens of fakeness..

Naxalism

India currently faces four major internal threats ;1.Terrorism 2.North-eastern states infiltration by the Bangladeshis.3.Naxalism 4.Kashmir insurgency
 And believe it or not,the biggest threat that we Indians face today  is undoubtedly, Naxalism. Evolved in small town Naxalbari,the movement is named after this town,which is in  Paschimbanga.Basically started as a protest against the exploitation by the rich men and  zamindars, now they wish to topple the  government of India,as they claim to 'break India' by 2050.
These naxalites are the aggressive communists,who violently protest against the unfair treatment given to them since ages by the upper caste Hindus.Naxalism can also be referred to as CPI (Maoists) and often use sophisticated machinery and gun weapons to attack the government bodies.They're far better skilled than our military and para military forces,and they're not just trigger happy morons.Obviously,the sophisticated machinery handed out to them,is done by none other than our dear neighbours.
The recent Dantewada massacre of 2010 killed many young men of the para-military forces.The tragic event shook the whole nation.

The media often portrays Terrorism as our biggest threat of all,which it is,but not as much as Naxalism.More people have died in naxal attacks,than in terrorism attacks.
The terrorism wishes to bleed India with 1000 cuts,and spread fear everywhere.And kill people in fragments.But a naxal attack would mean killing of at least a thousand people in one attack.They've got highly skilled operatives,with much better networking and communications.How so many people can determinedly work toward such a destructive cause,beats me.
Justice is often regarded as joke in our nation.The rich tycoons committing serious crimes often don't end up in jail.Our system is such that the honest and sincere ones have it difficult and the not so-sincere ones literally have it easy.Our system badly needs to be changed.In this case,the police forces have been both cowardly and corrupt.And make no decent efforts to capture the naxalites. Places like Gadchiroli are considered to be 'punishment postings' to those officers who make a 'nuisance' of themselves by being too honest or whatever.
The progress in capturing these goons has shamefully,been null.